A healthy relationship that comes to an end is guided by mutual respect, clear boundaries, minimal communication and acceptance. Mutual respect means recognizing the other person as free even if it hurts. Clear boundaries mean accepting the end without insisting or invading. Minimal and civil communication is limited to what is necessary for children or shared matters and always with respect. Acceptance means allowing the other person to rebuild their life.

The opposite is control and abuse. It is not acceptable to use threats, insults or fear to keep someone. It is not acceptable to monitor, harass or manipulate emotionally. It is not acceptable to deny the breakup or treat the other person as if they were property. If any of these behaviors appear, communication must stop, evidence should be kept and legal or psychological support should be sought.