It is important to know how to give pain its proper place. Not to push it aside, deny it, or pretend it never existed. Pain is part of our history, and although we may try to ignore it, it does not disappear simply because we stop looking at it. What we refuse to acknowledge continues to influence the way we think, act, and relate to others. Accepting that something has hurt us does not mean settling into suffering, but recognising what happened without needing to justify it or downplay its significance.

But pain should not take up all the space either. We must learn to put it where it belongs, recognise its influence, and prevent it from determining every decision we make in the present. We cannot change what has happened, but we can change our relationship with it. Moving forward does not mean erasing the past or pretending it no longer hurts. It means being able to remember it without allowing it to continue governing our lives.