It’s crucial to distinguish between what we feel for someone and how that person makes us feel. Sometimes, we admire someone and believe that’s enough to sustain the relationship, but if that person treats us poorly or ignores us, what truly affects us is the way they make us feel. Respect and treatment must be mutual, what we feel isn’t enough, there needs to be reciprocity that promotes well-being for both parties.

This principle applies to all types of relationships: friends, family, partners, coworkers. You can’t continue investing time and energy in a relationship that leaves you feeling bad, even if you still have affection or admiration for that person. A healthy relationship requires both sides to contribute something positive, not just in feelings, but also in actions that demonstrate respect and consideration. If there’s no balance, the best choice is to step back and prioritize your own well-being.